What Ifs

It is not the comforts that we long for gives us success. Most of the time we think, "if only" I had been born there, I have these things, I have good friends, I have good resources. etc I would have been different. But the perspective of the most successful men are not those resources, but its the passion. Most of them were lonely most of the times, but never forgot that God was always with them. Elijah's running from Jezebel is a classic example.

Ecclesiastes 4:4New American Standard Bible (NASB)

4 I have seen that every labor and every skill which is done is the result of rivalry between a man and his neighbor. This too is [a]vanity and striving after wind.

It was the strength of the Lord that defeated the great giants from the people of God. But when we think or feel we are weak and direct the strength for ungodly things we will be destroyed.

Pride killed Saul (OT), disobeying God and disrespecting God's command.

Proverbs 31:3New American Standard Bible (NASB)

3 Do not give your strength to women,
Or your ways to that which destroys kings.

Jesus said:

Matthew 18:1-6New American Standard Bible (NASB)

Rank in the Kingdom

18 At that [a]time the disciples came to Jesus and said, “Who then is greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” 2 And He called a child to Himself and set him [b]before them, 3 and said, “Truly I say to you, unless you[c]are converted and become like children, you will not enter the kingdom of heaven. 4 Whoever then humbles himself as this child, he is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. 5 And whoever receives one such child in My name receives Me; 6 but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it [d]would be better for him to have a [e]heavy millstone hung around his neck, and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.

Philippians 2:8-9New International Version (NIV)

8 And being found in appearance as a man,
    he humbled himself
    by becoming obedient to death—
        even death on a cross!

9 Therefore God exalted him to the highest place

    and gave him the name that is above every name, 

Even in the secular world, we see a lots of examples of people who were successful after repeated failures and struggles, they never questioned as to why they were treated that way or worried about things that they did not have, they never complained or compared with others. It is with the people who God has blessed and anointed they have become more proud and selfish. Saul's example of how he was jealous and angry when he went to kill David after hearing

1 Samuel 18:7New King James Version (NKJV)

7 So the women sang as they danced, and said:

“Saul has slain his thousands,
And David his ten thousands.”